Hello beautiful peoples!
Recently, I took a deep dive into my phone’s contact list and removed a significant number of names. It wasn’t an impulsive decision but a moment of reflection that led me to this act of digital decluttering. The realization of the fact that many of these contacts were never really my friends. They weren’t even close acquaintances or colleagues. They were people I reached out to only when I needed help, and when everything in my life was going ok, I never gave them a second thought.
It felt unfair. Keeping them on my contact list created the illusion of a relationship that didn’t actually exist. I realized that I was treating them as ambulances – calling them during my emergencies and not thinking about them when the storm had passed. That’s not how friendships should work. Friendship is about mutual care and connection, not a one-sided convenience.
To me, a friend is someone close to you who talks shit about you to your face but says nice things about you behind your back. That’s the kind of honesty and loyalty I value, and it’s the kind of connection I want to nurture moving forward.
Taking this step wasn’t about holding a grudge or shutting people out. It was about acknowledging that I hadn’t been fair to them or honest with myself. Carrying their names in my phone without genuine connection was a hollow gesture, one that did neither of us justice.
Moving forward, I want to nurture relationships that are genuine – relationships that aren’t defined by emergencies but by mutual respect, care, and shared experiences.
Sometimes, growth comes with the realization that letting go is a way of making space for something more meaningful. And this was one of those times for me. It’s not just about the numbers in a contact list; it’s about the people we choose to truly hold close in our lives.
That said, it works both ways. If you’re only reaching out to me when you need help, I encourage you to remove my contact from your device too. Relationships are a two-way street, and it’s only fair to hold ourselves to the same standard we expect of others.
In the end, I see this as an opportunity, not just a farewell. By making space for the right connections, I hope to grow a network of people who genuinely care for one another – through good times and bad. It’s a step toward building a life filled with authenticity, mutual respect, and meaningful moments. Here’s to a brighter, more connected future!
Catch you on the flip side,
AndrzejL
